The first thing I want to do this week is congratulate a fellow Author and Blogger, JW Alden, for recently having one of his works published! His short story titled, A Giant Mess of Darkness was recently featured in Ray Gun Revival. It’s a great story from a great Author and I encourage you to check it out! Congratulations, JW!
I’ve quite often heard that I’m a confident person—that I take on any challenge and smack fear in the face. Not to seem arrogant, but I’ll agree with these observations. I don’t like standing down and I don’t like saying “I think I can’t.” It is simply not me.
This carries into my writing. I like it. I love it, even. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that there is always room for improvement. However, because I am confident in it I don’t take criticism personally. Instead, I look forward to making my writing better, and I believe it always can get better.
The problem is that I have a tendency to believe everyone has the same outlook on life that I do. Once upon a time I was pretty insecure, but it has been so long I have forgotten that confidence doesn’t always come so easily. I believe it should come naturally and, admittedly, I can grow frustrated when I hear someone say “I can’t.”
That just doesn’t make sense, I think. If you “can’t” then just keep on trying until you “can!”
However, not everyone can switch from “can’t” to “can” with the blink of an eye. Again, I said many “I can’ts” in my day, but I forgot what “I can’t” feels like. To me, “I can’t” is quickly remedied: ignore the feeling and do the thing you need to do anyway—it’s simple!
Wrong, Randi. Time to fix that opinion of yours.
There is an upside to the opinion, though: I want everyone to be as confident as me because I want everyone to be as confident as me! Lack of confidence is not a fun thing. I believe I get frustrated because I want to help people feel better about themselves but—just like becoming more confident—it isn’t always that cut and dry.
So here’s what I am going to do: I am going to continue to encourage people. At the same time I will be more aware of their needs and not grow so frustrated. I am going to remind myself that some people need more time to overcome their insecurities and that “I can’t” can be a big, big thing to overcome.
The last thing I want to say about confidence is that I hope you know that you have every right to be a confident person and feel confident in yourself as an Author. You are talented, you are worth it and so is your writing! I sincerely hope that either you do believe this or you will come to believe it in the future.
Until next time,